How to Use Your Foreskin to Your Advantage - (PART 2)
If you're an uncircumcised man then you have heard people say cut men are better in the sack...Some say circumcised men are the worst in bed. I'll tell you why both claims are wrong.
Here's the Part One - does circumcision robs you? where I showed you why being cut or uncut doesn't make much difference - especially when you wear a condom - no matter how thin.
Here I'll show you... how to use your sensitive foreskin or that "scar" to your advantage during sex. Believe me.
Can Too Much Of A Good Thing Make You Feel Bad?
Yes, but it doesn't have to...
To begin with my frenulum is tight but it's NOT phimosis. A condition with tight foreskin that doesn't pull back requiring medical attention.
My frenulum acts like a tight rope folding up my foreskin behind the corona of glans. It looks like my erect penis has wrapped a scarf around glans.
Actually, it's as good as a cut penis - but more sensitive.
If your foreskin is loose enough to "roll", you at least have a familiar layer on your penis... but in my case my penis is like the Drew Barrymore in the movie 50 First Dates having the "Goldfield syndrome"...
...a woman's hands, her fingers, her mouth, her vagina... even my own hands... feels like a new touch everytime.
Fast forward as an adult, frustrated with severe panic attacks, low confidence, depression and what not... it was a problem.
But soon something changed and with new confidence I had new eyes.
Now I "Engineer" A Longer SexYes, there's no logic in the last sentence, and yet it'll make sense - soon.
But I can guarantee there's NO need to get circumcised.
Simply because you could use a good cream or a delay spray to desensitize... or even a herbal supplement to block the ejaculation urge...
The thing is circumcision may initially work... but your body and mind will fall back into the same biochemical make-up that gave you PE in the first place...
So why dig out of the pit only to fall back into it - sooner or later. And who knows if you're digging a deeper pit.
Instead here's what I did...
I took my foreskin as NATURE'S FEEDBACK MECHANISM to feel how much I can step on the gas and how long can I go.
Hang on it'll make sense.
Now here's your first rule of thumb:
During sex, feel your body... penis just being first among the equals.
Feel the body? What stupidity is this Kris?
See, it's okay. Don't make sex an intelligent activity. Leave that for the Shrinks.
Feeling with the body is a gut level activity. There are more nerve endings throughout your body than your penis alone.
Ohh... and... when you feel sensations throughout your whole body - then it doesn't fry the few nerves in your penis - making you shoot your load sooner.
First, relax... and then feel.
These NLP tricks have tremendously helped me... practice it. For more get my FREE ebook - 'First Step to Lasting Longer'.
To feel through your body - you just have to run your focus through your body. NOT keep your focus on your penis - or at any one place.
Your Feedback Mechanism During SexIt'll tell you if you are on the right track... you should feel good throughout your body...
So if you're focusing on any of these things:
- Your penis,
- Her, or her pleasure
- Anything else like baseball
Your foreskin will act like a beacon, signalling you something is WRONG.
How? You'll feel the top part of the penis is very sensitive.
BUT if you're focussing on your "feelings," in your body... then the beacon VANISHES.
How To Switch Off The "Beacon" in Your Foreskin or The GlansFor that -- I deeply engross myself "in sex."
I lose myself in sex. I become ONE WITH SEX.
No distraction, no sensitivity, no tricks... in that deep Trance state I create or "engineer" a long sex.
Does that make sense?
See, this isn't about "mind tricks"... this is about passion in the task i.e. sex.
A major problem is men are turning themselves into women with distraction or "multi-tasking".
We men are hunters, and if you "multi-task" like women - then your brain gets fried (or neurologically speaking - more parts will lit up and it'll soon exhaust itself)..
So like a hunter, you have to lose yourself "in the hunt."
It might be difficult for some people... but I'll show you how you've done it.
- Have you ever been so angry that you threw something and didn't realize what it was...
- Have you ever been so engrossed in an activity that you skipped a meal...
- Have you ever read a nail-biting novel or seen a movie up until the morning... and suddenly realized you've to go to the school or the office in a few hours...
- Have you ever tore her clothes in lust and didn't realize your nails scratched her roughly...
If you did then you know what I'm talking about... this is what I call Trance.
And when you bring this Trance state into your bedroom.... you can be a pornstar. I've no doubt.
See, The Biggest Problem Is Distraction(and other biochemical things we'll touch).
But first, count how many tabs have you opened in your browser... are you watching TV while you're reading this, are you talking to someone or someone's talking to you... that's distraction.
If you're right HERE - then my respect goes to you.
This "disease of distraction during sex" spread with Masters and Johnson. They suggested men to think about "baseball scores". We can't multitask. Women can.
With distraction comes anxiety.
During sex I focus in the present moment and lose myself...
But when you're distracted or not "into" sex - your foreskin acts like an annoying beacon... signalling you that you're heading straight to the trouble.
Here's an example to show you what I meanYesterday, when I was having sex with a new ultra-thin condom we came into the Lotus sex position, facing each other while she's on my lap...
My wife started playing with my penis... and suddenly it felt too sensitive. My frenulum was rubbing her soft belly.
The signal was loud and clear and I stopped moving into that psition and soon changed it doggy.
It felt way easier. And then later when I dived deeper "into" sex. It wasn't too sensitive after a while.
So in a way I stopped the beacon by coming into the easier position. And we enjoyed a lot, of course. I didn't realize but soon we had sex in the lotus position too...
But let's not forget I kept my calm and I was relaxed... otherwise I'd have ejaculated way on the spot.
It's important you also pay attention to the biochemical events during sex...
Imagine your penis touching her soft hands, her pink lips or going inside her warm vagina --- you go like,
OMG, OMG... she's so soft and beautiful... Awww... she's touching my penis... Awww... it feels so nice to me.I've learned to stop that... you're excited like a kid in a candy store and it's shooting up dopamine levels -- BIG mistake.
Now when I have sex I feel with my body, and say to myself in a deep tone,
"Ohhh yeahhhh... delicioussss... nowwww throw her over to the bed and fuck her... yeahh..."
Notice a difference?
Apart from being a little agressive or dominating, "I'm ONE with the sex"... I'm the very act of "doing it"... read it again. There's no "my."
"I'm ONE with the sex"... I'm the very act of "doing it"
I'm NOT seperate from the sex. This is pure passion.
In the second case - I'm acting with my Testosterone and a bit of Serotonin. And studies prove that the higher they are, the longer you last in bed (there're limits to it, of course).
Shift The Focus INTO Sex... From "Her", "Yourself" or "Baseball"
In those moments... I'm not having sex.. I'M SEX... there's no "me fucking her"... there's only SEX... SEX... SEX...
I'm engrossed... I'm crazy... I'M balliastic... There's no penis. There's no annoying beacon.
There's pure passion only. You're lost. You do it all the time... swimming, playing games, driving...
How I "Engineer" A Long SexNow think yourself as a "sex engineer" and to create a good structure you've to create a strong base. Here's a sample of the kind of pillars you need:
- If you don't have high libido - you don't have enough gas.
- If you can't keep a good erection - you've a flat tire, and you can't go anywhere.
- Taking the lead in the relationship and sex... so you're the one who displays the masculine energy... ask her to shut the fuck up. And just let you fuck her.
- Realizing when to stop and change positions - otherwise its boring...
- If your Testorone is low, you won't be able to "get it up". And don't even think about those blue pills - with nasty side effects.
- Too much serotonin and you lose interest in sex and in life...
- If Dopamine levels too low then you don't want sex or anything else in life...
So it's about balance.
There are so many diseases... and there's only one good health.
Similarly, there are many techniques and things to keep in mind to last longer in bed... You can find it ALL at one place in my '3 Steps to Lasting Longer' program.
That's why I call it "engineering" longer sex.
Remember, your bio chemistry decides the way you have sex.
Too much of anything or too little of anything is bad. And of course, supplements can help you here.
And lastly, be grateful for what you have or don't have. Because it generates a lot of good chemicals and produces a lot of good feelings - which is good for sex and creativity.
And creativity brings good income, romance, happiness and satisfaction in life.
Now I hope you've realized that longer sex is much more than JUST about the penis. This innocent patch of skin is not the cause of your PE woes.
And in my advanced program '3 Steps to Lasting Longer' I show you exactly what you need to do to last longer in bed...